Location: Church of the Holy Sepulchre, 71 Khyber Pass Rd
When: 1pm, Saturday 16th June 2018
Kumeu Valley Estate, Old North Road, arrive from 5 p.m.
Is there parking?
Yes! The church has space for 50 cars in its parking lot and there is also parking on the street.
There is also parking at the reception venue. We encourage you to car-pool if possible.
What's the dress code?
We'd probably pitch it at the smarter end of smart-casual, but please feel free to wear whatever you feel comfortable in.
Will there be food?
Yes! There will be nibbles and bubbles after the ceremony and dinner will be served at the reception.
Are my children invited?
Your children are most welcome to come to the ceremony, but unfortunately they are not invited to the reception.
I am the world's best photographer (using my phone). Can I?
We'd rather you enjoy the occasion, so please don't take any photos during the ceremony. You can take photos after the ceremony. We'll share the photos we get taken with you later.
Your presence at our wedding and your friendship in our lives are the best gifts you can give, please don't feel that you need to give more than that.
However, if you would like to give something, we would greatly value...
Something bought from our registry: https://www.thelovelyregistry.co.nz/selandhayley
Something listed on our registry that you already have, but want to give away: if there's anything that you no longer need, that we could use, we would gladly accept a second-hand/repurposed gift. Please email rsvp@madyak.net if you would like to do this.
A donation to the World Vision Syrian Refugee programme
What can we tell you about us?
Well, if you’re seeing this page, you likely already know a great deal about one or even both of us. Hopefully this brief snapshot will fill you in on anything you’ve missed.
I (Hayley) grew up in Nepal where my family lived for 15 years. I came back to NZ seven years ago to study law, and now I work as a lawyer in a commercial firm in the local government and environment law team. I love ice cream and chocolate, biking to work, and trying out amazing new vegetarian recipes (which Sel is always happy to taste test).
I (Selwyn) grew up in Auckland, never imagining I would one day marry an exotic Nepali. I too am (almost) a lawyer, so yeah, Hayley and I both like talking. I love dreaming big, experimenting with creative schemes to try do some good in the world. I can’t stop myself reading and writing, especially about what Hayley describes as ‘non-practical’ topics. And I’m always game for meeting new people.
Suppose you’ll want to know how we met. Well, picture a rainy night in 2012, a cultural night organised by our church communities. Part of the evening’s entertainment: Hayley doing a Bollywood dance.
Wind the clock forward 18 months, and Hayley is applying for a role in a youth-led charity organisation. Who would the interviewer be but Selwyn? As Hayley recalls, the interview was far more of a ‘get-to-know-you’ chat than she was expecting from a formal interview. Hayley got the role, and the friendship grew. Selwyn even began to attend law lectures (for educational reasons, of course, not simply to spend more time with a certain girl). Eventually, Selwyn asked her out.
Since then we’ve been on a host of adventures together. We’ve visited Nepal twice, climbing one of its mountains and hosting a bunch of friends on a two week exploration of the country. We’ve discussed and debated big ideas (about faith, feminism, and our futures); trained as Clifton Strengths coaches; braved our first year of work; gone throughs up and downs and struggles and celebrations, and learnt a heap about each other.
And eventually we decided the time had come. We've decided to get married.
We have tried to reflect our values in our wedding as much as possible. One of the first and most important of these is community. If you are reading this then you are a valued member of our community and we would be honoured to have you at our wedding.
We have also tried to minimise our impact on the earth, incorporating elements of a green wedding. If you’re interested in finding out more about this, please ask us, we’d love to chat about it. You can also read some ideas on the topic here: https://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Green-Wedding or google “green weddings”.